I’ve been a mother for nearly 15 years now.
Jeez…that’s nearly half my life! And although I know these big commercial days aren’t for everyone, I do still like mother’s day. Not that it’s vastly different to most days – the kids have either been too young to think of treating me themselves or (now that I have a teen) too lazy, and hubby just goes through the motions (as do I on father’s day). But for me, I like to take the day to appreciate my boys and to cut myself some slack and see that sometimes I get the motherhood thing right.
I don’t know about you, but I often feel like a properly shit mother.
About 90% of the time I fill one of the more negative mummy stereotypes – I am shouty mum, I am stressed mum, I am strict mum, I am sweary mum, I am forgetful mum, I am busy mum…often taking on more than one role at a time. I’ve been a single mum, a step mum, a teen mum and a working mum, and carried them all out to varying degrees of just-scraping-by success.
There are many more stereotypes I will never be – crafty mum, homemaker mum, yummy mum, earth mum and never, but ever perfect mum. But I’ve reached a point in life where I’ve made peace with that, and in most cases I am glad that those aren’t roles I will lump on to my motherhood CV. Particularly perfect mum, because I know that she is actually a fantasy.
But I love my kids, and sometimes I do manage to be a good mother.
I try hard to make sure they have a good diet, I’m fanatical about tooth brushing, bedtime stories are second nature and I give great hugs. So I feel like I deserve to take some time and enjoy what I’ve created. Mother’s day gives me that chance – I got a lie-in, a family walk into town in the wonderful weather we’ve had this weekend, brunch and a wander around the shops, with a pit-stop in the park with ice cream cones before heading home to chill out. I did still have to make Sunday dinner – hubby seems to be deaf to my not-so-subtle hints of how I hate being the cook every damn day – but I picked an easy meal which everyone enjoyed.
And now I’m about to enjoy some chocolate!
Whatever you got up to today, whether you were spoiled like a mum in a tv advert or you had a more down to earth time, if you’re trying your best to be at least a passable mum then I hope you had a wonderful day. You deserved it.